How to Protect yourself in toxic relationships

Psychologist Mamta Saha Wednesday 07th February 2024 05:20 EST

Ups and downs are a natural part of all relationships, if you feel more miserable and drained than happy after spending time with certain people, it may be something else. It can be tricky to see red flags in challenging relationships and even trickier to find a way out of that space. These red flags are not exclusive to romantic relationships, they can also be found in platonic friendships and amongst family members, near and far.

Pay attention to the faces and names of people that come to your mind.

It can be deeply upsetting to be around negative vibrations especially if you are a sensitive person and sometimes you may feel as if you have no way to escape them.

In this week’s article I will share what you can do to protect yourself if you find yourself dealing with toxic people in such situations.

1. First things first: Eating a good diet, getting quality sleep, and staying active goes a longway in reducing the tension that makes your body feel tight. It might sound simple but taking care of your physical body plays a large part in taking care of your mental health. The healthier you are the more intuitive you get.

2. Staying connected: This is a big one. Missing your family and friends can really take a toll on your mental health, so it’s important to stay connected with loved ones. Get together for dinner, a movie night, or just a chat. Be around people who give you unconditional positive regard.

3. Set Boundaries: It is impossible to fulfil all of life's obligations and take care of yourself as well; setting boundaries and learning to say "no" to those things that are not essential will allow you to carve out some time for safeguarding your mental health. For a short while, think about where you might be overly generous with your time and energy and take a step back to observe which relationships are not reciprocal and take action to adjust them for the better.

4. Value yourself: Treat yourself with kindness and respect and avoiding self-criticism. You are a valuable person just because you exist. No matter what mistakes you have made, you are still a worthy person. Use mistakes and past experiences as teachers, not as a measure of your self-worth.

Make your mental health a priority. Manage your energy when supporting others and use your intuition as a guide.

For a video on managing guilt when setting boundaries visit saha_mamta on IG

If you, your family,community, or business need support inworking through this then reach out and explore some workshops and coaching. I’d also love to know how you get on, email me: [email protected]. Follow me on Linked in: Mamta Saha and IG: Saha_Mamta. Download my free e-book: Sending you all the love that you truly deserve.

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