On a scale of 1-10, how much do you love yourself? What does self-love even mean to you? Do you say “yes” when you actually mean “no”? Do you habitually neglect your self-care? I know it’s difficult to contemplate and think about some of these questions, I get it, I too have walked in these shoes.
As a community we are raised to put everybody else’s needs before ours. As a result of my conditioning, I became a classic people pleaser, striving to make everybody else happy before I even gave myself a look in! This left me feeling tired unappreciated and somewhat resentful. I felt like I was living for everyone else. Don’t get me wrong, I love selfless service and its one of the reasons why I became a psychologist, but I struggle with feeling taken advantage off and unappreciated.
I have seen these sentiments resonate across the community and often coach many women and men who are frustrated with having to give to everyone else and be left with not much respect or energy for themselves.
When we begin to pay attention to the discomfort around the choices we made, we get into the driving seat of how we want our life to be. Self-love is your secret weapon because when you are topped up, you are in a better place to give to others.
Your inner world creates your outer world and lived experience. How you feel on the inside will be mirrored on the outside. I shared some brilliant tools and techniques on my Emotionally Stronger Masterclass which you can now access on my website: www.mamtasaha.com. Here are a five insights and affirmations which were inspired from the Masterclass.
1. Self- Acceptance – No matter much you judge yourself and improve yourself, it will not be enough if you do not accept yourself. Affirmation: Everything I need is within me.
2. Self-Care- When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. Self-care encourages you to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself so that you can transmit the good feelings to others. Affirmation: I make time to take care of myself.
3. Boundaries- Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for the relationships you have with others. When you treat yourself with love and respect, you give others permission to do the same. Affirmation: I honour and respect my boundaries.
4. Treat yourself well- Take time to appreciate yourself. Affirmation: My love for myself increases each day.
5. Taking responsibility for your happiness- Now that you are awakened to the fact that no one owes you happiness, you can always strive to keep yourself happy. It is very simple because happiness already resides in you, all you have to do is bring it to the surface. Affirmation: My happiness comes from within me.
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