The tradition of New Year's resolutions has evolved significantly from ancient Babylonian promises to return borrowed farm equipment to the modern focus on holistic self-improvement. Today, the shift has moved away from rigid, numerical targets toward lifelong practices that prioritise mental well-being and personal growth.
As we enter 2026, the emphasis is no longer just on what we achieve, but on how we adapt our identities to flourish amidst the complexities of modern life. To explore this transition,Professor Kamaldeep Bhui CBE, a Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Oxford and author of ‘The Maharaja’s Bodyguard’ that talks about Indian history and living life in modern Britain, shares his insights on crafting resolutions that truly endure with Asian Voice.
Distinguishing growth from fantasy
Kam explains that people often spend too much time setting unrealistic objectives without working through the necessary steps. He suggests that rather than chasing “shiny things,” it is far better to identify deep areas of learning that make a person “sparkle.” Kam notes that meaningful resolutions can be as simple as committing to lunch with a best friend or learning a new craft for the sake of the challenge itself. He believes the structural marker of a successful resolution is the willingness to embrace change and rise to obstacles rather than seeking a new skill merely to become proficient.
Redefining success beyond numerical goals
Kam argues that resolutions should be viewed as lifelong practices focused on inner happiness rather than on an audience's validation. He suggests building an intermediate set of achievements that eventually project toward a larger ambition. According to Kam, these small steps are equal to any magnificent achievement and should be celebrated. He believes that learning from the process is the true achievement, not whether one becomes famous or rich. He encourages an adaptive, creative mind prepared to treat failure as an opportunity to refine a valued dream.
Overcoming hidden psychological friction
Kam points out that many people fail to match their desires with their personal strengths and practical demands, such as caregiving or health management. He highlights that to flourish, one's identity must change to become the person they want to be. Drawing from his own experience as an author, Kam explains that he had to believe he was an author before his routines could change. He suggests spending time with people from whom one can learn to be different and allowing space for play.
Practical advice for the upcoming year
For those making resolutions this year, Kam recommends becoming one's own scientist by gathering feedback from oneself and others. He emphasises that the goal must be achievable and evaluated regularly. Kam advises that kindness and compassion are as necessary as drive, and that maintaining health and friendships is vital. He concludes by suggesting that individuals learn to mourn losses while moving toward fresh lives, utilising ancient practices of movement and meditation, which modern science reinforces as essential for protecting mental health.
