Today, I’m going to share how you can start to love yourself. When you do you will feel confident, happy and at ease as you head into 2024. My tips will be practical, through provoking and proven to be successful and I encourage you to save this article so you can always look back at it to remind yourself of how you can be your best self.
So many of my clients share that they have days when they just don’t feel like themselves. They are constantly doing things for others, being there for the community or their family, work and neighbours and all of this at the cost of really taking care of themselves - keep reading if this sounds like you or someone you know – believe me, you are not alone.
When I work with these challenges, self-doubt is often the first emotion to unravel and unpack. This is because for so many being dependent on what others thought and being directed and lead by them was the only way to know what to do and how to find the way forward.
In my work I encourage my clients to first acknowledge this lack of self- belief, this is because we can have deep feelings of embarrassment and shame when it comes to feelings that are not deemed to be socially acceptable and as a result, we can mask our behaviour and push our true selves down untilwe can’t ignore it anymore. Therefore, the work is to allow my clients to feel and accept the fear and self-doubt in a safe way.We then work to re-connect with who they truly are until they get to a place of gratitude for themselves and develop positive rituals around self-care.
If you feel bad, wrong or ashamed for being yourself it’s worth taking the time to examine the judgements that you are making in your mind. If you were to write down what you hear in your mind and start to understand where the voices are coming from you can begin to understand where these thoughts were born. A choice can then be made as to whether they belong to you or not at all. These beliefs may have felt like all you knew in the past but when you step away you notice that these thoughts get in the way of you truly valuing and appreciating who you are.
If you find your mind drifting to thoughts that are unkind and self-depreciating, choose to think truthful thoughts about yourself instead. Look in the mirror and repeat some affirmations (I created some that you can buy on my website). Your brain will believe whatever you tell it, so be kind and when you make a commitment to do this you enhance the self-love you feel.
If doubt still arises (which it may), allow it to be there and then release those thoughts by using your affirmations to acknowledge the loving truth about yourself. Let me reassure you that self-doubt is it is perfectly normal and that you also have the choices of self-love available to. When you access that loving kindness for yourself you can then begin to send it to others. This mindset helps you heal, feel confident and move forward in peace.
If you, your family or community need support inworking through this then reach out and explore some workshops and coaching. I’d also love to know how you get on, email me: [email protected]. Follow me on Linked in: Mamta Saha and IG: Saha_Mamta. Download my free e-book: www.mamtasaha.com. Sending you all the love that you truly deserve.