Today, I’m going to share what you can do to deal with anger to help you feel lighter, fresher and clearer as you head into 2024. My tips will be practical, through provoking and proven to be successful and I encourage you to save this article so you can always look back at it to remind yourself of how you can be your best self.
So many of my clients come to me with issues around anger and frustration towards certain family members. Having gone through years and years of tricky situations, challenges and dilemma’s - judgements have built overtime and this has resulted in my client’s experiencing ill-health, emotional suffering and deep feelings of being misunderstood. If any of this sounds familiar, keep reading, you are not alone.
When I work with these challenges, anger is the first emotion to unravel and unpack. This is because for so many being angry was the only option and means to break an unhealthy bond or connection. It was the only path to take to feel free from being held captive – either physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
In my work I encourage my clients to first acknowledge the anger, this is because we can have deep feelings of embarrassment and shame when it comes to feelings that are not deemed to be socially acceptable and as a result, we can supress anger and push it down until it shows up in our body. Therefore, the work is to allow my clients to feel and accept the anger they have towards family members without harbouring negative feelings towards themselves.
If you feel bad, wrong or ashamed for being angry it’s worth taking the time to examine the judgements that you are making of yourself. If you were to write down what you hear in your mind and who’s voice it is in, you can begin to understand where these thoughts were born. You can then make a choice as to whether they belong to you or not at all. These beliefs may have served some purpose in the past but might just be completely irrelevant now.
We can also work to accept, even be grateful to our anger for protecting us and set another intention: embracing our freedom. If you find your mind drifting to thoughts that feel heavy, choose to think loving thoughts instead, healing thoughts and send loving kindness to yourself and then to family members. When you make a commitment to do this you can achieve forgiveness.
If anger still arises (which it may), allow it to be there and then release them by using your compassionate voice to acknowledge and reassure that it is perfectly normal and that you also have other choices available to you such as the freedom to feel peace and calm. When you access that loving kindness for yourself you can then begin to send it to others. This mindset helps you heal and move forward in peace, not anger.
If you need support doing this work, then reach out and explore a bespoke coaching journey. I’d also love to know how you get on, email me: [email protected]. Follow me on Linked in: Mamta Saha and IG: Saha_Mamta. Download my free e-book: www.mamtasaha.com. Good luck!