Core pillars of self-esteem

Mamta Saha Wednesday 08th September 2021 02:13 EDT

Dear Readers, I believe having a healthy level of self-esteem is at the root of our life experience. The more we believe in ourselves the stronger our confidence with life events. The less likely we are to take things so personally.  

Often you may hear “believe in yourself” and other motivating statements and I am sure you will agree that on a bad day it is never as easy as it sounds. Self-esteem has been a hot topic in psychology for decades. It’s one of my favorites as I too struggled with low self-esteem for years. That was until I learnt the key tools to manage it better.  In this article I share with you some reflections on self-esteem that I hope will help you on your journey. 

Your sense of identity can be understood by reflecting on the labels that you have attached to yourself, that for you define a part of who you are. These labels provide us with a sense of who we are across different contexts and in different situations. You have to be careful with the labels, so that you do not overly identify to any one role. If that particular role no longer exists, you may feel a sense of emptiness. So, the solution to this potential problem is to make sure that we have a diverse set of interests and relationships, so that we see ourselves as “more than” any one part of ourselves. 

Self-esteem also depends on your ability to appreciate, value, enjoy, and express gratitude for what you have. It is important to remember that part of appreciation as it relates to a healthy sense of self-esteem involves accurately estimating the quality or worth of something. Practicing mindfulness and meditation encourages us to step into the role of observer, which can strengthen the ability to see things as they truly are.

In order to build healthy self-esteem, it is crucial that you work towards your ability to honestly accept all parts of yourself. When there are parts of the self that seem unforgivable or unacceptable in some way, it is time to begin the process of forgiveness. When you truly accept yourself for the way you are, you are ready and proud to present your true authentic self to the world. 

Having a strong sense of self-confidence and belief in your abilities is a real game changer. Feeling confident no matter what, makes you more competent, be willing to take the risks involved, and trying new things and persisting in the face of defeat or adversity. Confidence is like your superpower. Once you start to believe in yourself, magic starts happening. 


My secret trick, to feel like a winner, this gives me confidence and esteem. I know you are winners too and that is why I am sharing this with you today. Always remember your worth, your beauty and the gift that you are to this world. 

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